What's the Deal with Fae Anyway?

I love the concept of Fairies,  I do. But when it comes to reading about Fae? I. Can't. Even.

Are Fae and Fairies even the same thing? Maybe my previously conceived notions about them are way off base. Every time I go to read about Fae my mind automatically defaults to Tinkerbell and Pixie Hollow. (Now, THAT'S A BOOK I WOULD READ!)

I've tried, y'all. I've tried SO HARD. 

The Iron Fey series was SO popular, I read through book two and then lost interest. A Court of Thorns and Roses? Soooo boring, I skipped to the sexy scenes (not even afraid to admit that). Wicked Lovely, a no go. Need, I needed to stop reading. Glimmerglass, The Faerie Ring, Wings, Wondrous Strange--nothing could hold my interest. 

I'm in need of a Fae(?!) Fey(!?) Fairy(!?) expert! 

What am I doing wrong!? Is there an END ALL, BE ALL book about fairies that will convert me? I feel like I'm missing a HUGE genre with good stories but...then again, maybe Fae just aren't for me??

Disney Fairies own my heart and I think that may be the stem of my problem. If loving Tink and her pals is wrong, I don't want to be right. 

Any thoughts? Is there a creature or genre you have trouble connecting with? Sound off in the comments!